and then a bit of sadness

so i know i did the right thing in not continuing a relationship with someone who had such different beliefs and understandings about what relationships look like and the role of women. there were also a couple other concerns that i had about the relationship that also added to the end of it. these other concerns are things that would have made a relationship hard, but one of the things is some past hurts that are still very present that he needs to work through for his own sake.

there are a lot of great things about the guy…the things that drew me to him in the first place. and a lot of ways in which we were really compatible; we had a lot of similar interests. and i had a lot of fun chatting with him and spending time with him. i have some very fond memories.

so even though i know i made the right choice, i’m still finding i’m a little sad…sad that he’s still haunted by the past hurts, sad that our beliefs on some core things were so different, and finally a little sad that it didn’t, couldn’t work out.


3 Responses to “and then a bit of sadness”

  1. 1 jlyn 30 October, 2006 at 1:32 pm

    my friend i’m so sorry that you are sad and that you are going through all of this. i look forward to seeing you and spending time with you this weekend.

  2. 2 lizzy 30 October, 2006 at 7:25 pm

    i know you are sad….i sad for you…and that is all there is to say…cause no words can fix it or change it…but know you are loved and i will see you in a few short weeks in cinny! cya sista!lizzy

  3. 3 Da Youth Guy 3 November, 2006 at 8:31 pm

    Right decision and right attitude about what you should hold out for. My wife and I will celebrate 30 years together in February. When it’s been the best (and it hasn’t always and MOST of thosetimes have been my fault)it’s because we lean on each other. I don’t need another me in this relationship (Lord protect me!)I need HER with her gifts and her skills and her…well, just her! If she were just me redux then I could get the same kind of compliments and encouragement by talking to myself in the mirror!It hurts, but it was right. Right for you and for him.PeaceJay

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